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A 9/11 Service of Consolation and Hope
co-developed by Rabbi Goldie Milgram and Andrea Read
      for members of our block and a few other blocks here in Jersey City the week of 9/11

 by
Rabbi Goldie Milgram, author of

Reclaiming Judaism as a Spiritual Practice, Meaning and Mitzvah, & Make Your Own Bar/Bat Mitzvah
 

The Flow of Our Gathering

Melody

Lamentations

Poem: War

Well of Tears

The Narrow Bridge

Civilization is a spiritual practice.

I lift up eyes

The world is a very narrow bridge

The Summer Ends.

Well of Hope

It is Rare to Be Born a Human Being

The Narrow Bridge

.........

We sit low, we sit together, at a time of profound loss and confusion.
There have been such times.  Let us read together from Lamentations 3:46

The mouths of our enemies have burst open against us.
Fear and panic have fallen upon us, devastation and destruction
Rivers of tears plunge from my eyes on account of the shattered house of my people.
My eyes flow constantly and without respite, there is nothing to compare to such wounds.

War

The trembling finger of a woman
Goes down the list of casualties
On the evening of the first snow.

The house is cold and the list is long.

All our names are included.

Charles Simic
Hotel Insomnia

The Well of Tears, a time for sharing. (We set out two bowls of water, one the well of hope - a crystal bowl with clear water; one the well of tears, a brass bowl full of water with a bowl of salt beside it) They were covered by a silk scarf draped over both. We uncovered the Well of Tears and read the memory piece which follows and then went around for each person to say who they are missing, what they have lost in their lives, what they are feeling. Freedom to pass and not speak was part of the opening instruction, some of the children chose to speak as well.)

A neighbor told us: "Walking across the concourse, it was dark and dust so thick we couldn’t see, we held hands, many people across, it could have been a hundred of us, to make sure not one of us would be lost."

The Narrow Bridge (We sang this slowly, holding hands around the circle)

All of the world is a very narrow bridge
a very narrow bridge, a very narrow bridge 2x
And the main thing, the main thing is
though we fear, we won’t let each other fall.
And the main thing, the main thing is
we won't let each other fall.

Adapted from Reb Nachman of Breslov

Civilization is a Spiritual Practice - a brief spiritual message from Reb Goldie

Let our souls recall the Torah’s description of the day of the revelation at Sinai:

Exodus 19:16 It came to pass on the third day when it was morning that there were thunder claps and lightning flashes and a thick cloud was upon the mountain and a very powerful blast of a shofar and the entire nation that was in the camp shuddered.

Will this be the shofar blast that created an international wake up call to become civilized together? Will Amalek, the concentration of the evil inclination, be recognized and dealt with instead of left to lurk and strike from the shadows? Will humanity prove able to create and maintain effective world-wide standards of justice and loving kindness?

The original Torah values described in the story of the giving of Torah at Sinai is the basis of much of modern civilization. This is not obvious until something so horrible as the World Trade Center annihilation comes along and reveals what is possible in the absence of having such basic agreements about living.

This is our time in the wilderness. We don’t often pause to think of what it was like for the Israelites to leave Egypt, cross the Red Sea and find themselves not in the Promised Land of their dreams, instead they must wander forty years in the wilderness. The road to Sinai must have been difficult on so many levels - survivor guilt, exhaustion, fear of further pursuit, expressing anger at God and wishing life could go back to the way it used to be.

The Torah reveals an emerging fundamental survival issue for Moses and the traveling band of former slaves: how to live as free people without a system of governance or agreed-upon values. It was a time of knowing what you are not, a slave, and yet being unsure what it means to live as you have become: free.

Albeit imperfect, today the most orderly, caring, effective society created in the history of the world has had its faith shattered. Now what will we do? We recognize the number forty - forty weeks of gestation in a pregnancy, forty days and nights of rain, Jesus’ forty days of anguished contemplation in the desert, the Buddha, sat beneath the bodhi tree for forty days before attaining enlightenment, forty years the Israelites spent in the wilderness.

Wilderness time is a new chapter, a time of honoring our losses and feelings and beginning the long process of transformation.. It may take generations, indeed forty years perhaps or, given how long people live, multiple generations of encounter with the Torah of decency, so that we will again see a planet of fully open borders and renewed trust.

All read together: Again we stand at the base of the mountain, listening and gathering guidance, recommitting ourselves to the cause of freedom and the recognition that freedom within holy guidelines is needed. Civilization is a spiritual practice.                                                          Rabbi Goldie Milgram

Adapted From the Book of Psalms (We did this with hand motions, standing up together - it was a risk and surprising to find how appreciative so many different kinds of people were for getting into their bodies and embodying their prayer at this time.)

I lift my eyes
up to the mountains
from where, from where
will my help come? 2x

My help
comes from the Source
Creator of the heavens,
us and the earth
.

IV by Wendell Berry

The summer ends, and it is time
To face another way. Our theme
Reversed, we harvest the last row
To store against the cold, undo
The garden that will be undone
We grieve under the weakened sun
To see all earth’s green fountains dried,
And fallen all the works of light.
You do not speak, and I regret
This downfall of the good we sought
As though the fault were mine. I bring
The plow to turn the shattering
leaves and bent stems into the dark,
From which they may return. At work,
I see you leaving our bright land,
The last cut flowers in your hand.

(Some people studied this poem together after the service and found many different and helpful interpretations.)

The Well of Hope (Cover the Well of Tears, uncover the Well of Hope.
We passed a small bowl of shells around the room, each person put theirs into the well when they spoke, whispered or silently gave their blessing or wish.)

Offer your blessing or wish for this time.

Tale of a Neighbor "I was running from the site in high heels and as I passed a shoe store, a woman ran out and handed me a pair of sneakers saying, "put these on, you won’t get far in those."

It is rare to be born a human being
The number of those endowed with human life
is as small as the amount of earth
one can place on a finger nail.
Life as a human being is hard to sustain-
as hard as it is for the dew to remain on the grass.
But it is better to live a single day with honor
than to live one hundred and twenty and die in disgrace.
Live so that all people will say in your praise,
that you were diligent in the service of your country
and in your concern for others
more valuable than the treasures in a store house
are the treasures of the body
and the treasures of the heart are the most valuable of all.
from the time you read this letter on
strive to accumulate the treasures of the heart.

Adapted from The Three Kinds of Treasure
by
Nichiren Daishonin

Closing Blessing:  (I gave a gathering blessing, recalling as many single word images from each of the blessings that people spoke.)

Closing Message:  Dr. Barry Bub spoke about mental and physical health issues we all are dealing with during this crisis mode, and taught about care of children and self.

Closing Song:  Sung slowly, then strongly.
All of the world is a very narrow bridge
a very narrow bridge, a very narrow bridge 2x
And the main thing, the main thing is
though we fear, we won’t let each other fall
And the main thing, the main thing is
to continue supporting one and all.
Adapted from Reb Nachman

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